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I periodically read through the waiting family profiles on the Bethany Website. When i see new couples and read -- it amazes me some of the things they put. Maybe mine was like that too, I do not remember but lordy if we adopt again - it will be different! One I just read said that the reason for adopting was to support a birthmom --- this couple had a bio child and could conceive but felt the need to be there for a needy woman and her baby. Really? I know they have good intentions but if I were going to select a needy cause I am thinking orphans in Haiti or feeding the hungry --- I guess to me domestic infant adoption is just not something I feel is a needy cause --- well maybe it could be - i always felt like the needy one - the weak one that could not have a baby -- I don't know I just can not imagine thinking I did this great thing for Goldielocks by being there to take and parent her baby -- by far us being placed with baby bear has been the wonderful thing -- I guess I just never looked at goldilocks as needing us, yeah God had a plan and it was no accident us finding each other at the perfect time -- no doudt it was meant to be in everyway --- maybe my ramblings are not making sense I guess it just irritates me that adoption agencies are NOT doing a great job of educating these families on the realities of adoption and these couples are walking around with their heads in the clouds actually thinking they are doing some wonderful unselfish act --- and I know being a mom in general is a wonderful unselfish act -- but the act of adoption itself really isn't - I just wish these families had a clearer view of this -- o.k. thats all -- going to bed!