An Openly Adopted Child's Legacy

not sure who to give credit for this.... I found it online and really like it! I know some do not like the term birthmom, I just left it that way - I think it is more of a known term.





An Openly Adopted Child's Legacy

Once there were two expectant mothers.
One carried and cared for you beneath her beating heart
She became your Birthmother.
The other carried the hope of you within her.
She became your Mom.
As the days passed, and you grew bigger and stronger,
Your Birthmother knew that she could not give you all you needed after your birth.
Meanwhile, your Mom was ready and waiting for you.

One day your Birthmom and your Mom found each other.

They looked into each other’s eyes and saw a friend.
Your Birthmom saw the life your Mom could give you.
Your Mom saw how much your Birthmom loved and cared for you.

They decided that what you needed was both kinds of love in your life.

So now you have two families,
One by birth, the other by adoption.

And you have a home where you can get:
your questions answered,
your boo boos bandaged,
your heartaches soothed,
And much needed hugs.

And a place where you can find:
answers to your questions,
your image in the mirror,
a part of yourself,
And much needed hugs.

Two different kinds of families
Two different kinds of love
Both a part of you.

My mom's cool....

Mom holding baby bear, getting her face painted at her b-day party!




My mom is cool in her own little ways!!! Really she has come around so much about my relationship with Goldilocks. She does not come out and really say much but it is how she acts.
Not once did she mention anything about the kidnapping in Mississippi by the biological mother, ofcourse now we know the facts - but, before we just knew an adopted baby was kidnapped by bmom. Also she will mention in casual conversation that baby bear in her words is the "spitting image of Goldilocks". I think it is cool. So many people find comfort in the fact that Baby bear looks like our family an they tell us all the time -- I guess to "reassure of that she is ours" - God love 'em - they try! And the way my mom loves and adores her with this passionate type love, she says Baby Bear is her whole heart! My mom has 4 children, 5 grandchildren and 2 greatgrands, but she has this special realtionship with babybear, she connects with her so well. I can kinda feel her ease with everything, and it makes me happy!

Admiration

I admire so many things about my daughter, really I do! She is only one but she is just an awesome person! One thing I just adore about her, she has very little fear.
She loves everyone and trusts them as if no one will ever hurt her. She waves to strangers and laughs and wants to share with them. She had half of Wendy's in love with her today when we went for lunch! Her smile lights up any room, and it is if she just sees the good in people - so innocent and yet so secure that she can look at me and then explore her world with no concerns for harm. In one way I know this should scare me, and I guess if I thought about it much it would, but I am always there to protect her and just watch her in amazement! I know one day she will see the world very differently, but as for now she helps me see the world through her eyes and let me tell you it is one amazing place to be!!!!!

Birthday fun!!!!!

Today we had Baby Bear's Birthday Party!!! We had a Luau and it was sooo fun!! She loved it and did so well!!! Just wanted to share a few pics!!!!

vasoline adventure

So have your ever wondered what happens when you get in to vasoline and rub it in your hair? Well baby bear found out and had a lot of fun!!! She is learning how to open everything now and is in to everthing!!! She also nicely distributed 80 baby wipes all over her room today while I was hanging clothes in her closet--- she is one fast baby - well tommorow she will be one so I guess she will be a toddler! Look out world!!!!

Girlfriends Rule!

This week I went for a quick visit to see my BFF and 2 other girlfriends from highschool! It was fun taking a break from mommy land and reconnecting with friends!
I have to admit this was one of the first times I was ready to get back- I enjoyed my visit but I missed my baby bear - umm probably like I have never missed anyone before! Girlfriends are great and so was all the lovings I got from baby bear when I got home!!!!

July Fourth Visit!

We are just getting in from our 3 day visit with babybears biomommy - Goldilocks.
We went to the town that babybear was born and stayed and had lots of time to visit!
One really cool thing is we got to meet her great-grandfather and gets pictures of him and babybear together. With all this talk going on with the forums and other places about being scared of open adoption and the biomom not really mattering much after placement --DON'T BUY IN TO THAT!!!!!!! I can not imagine our lives with out Goldilocks, she is such a special part of our family and I know this is going to help baby bear soooo much in the future! It is great, but hard to say goodbye -- I have like this mini-depression thing going on when I have to leave Goldilocks--- I know that may sound wierd to some people it is just hard to say goodbye--- but we had a wonderful visit!!! just wanted to share a pic of us!