Monday, March 29, 2010
New Favorite Comment!
So as an adoptive mom, I thought I had heard all of the stupid comments one could make, untill the other day. Someone that knows me and my family , that I have two children a boy and a girl but she did not know that they were adopted and we were talking about something medical and she asked if it ran in the family, I told her we were not sure because brother bear had been adopted, and she said, so him and baby bear are not brother and sister? I kinda just looked at her and said , uh yes they are brother and sister, she has been his sister since we brought him home and they always will be. and she was like, oh ok. and as usual I am left thinking... did they really just ask me that?
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Really?? People need to keep their mouths shut! I think I would have smacked her, lol! Good reply!
Wow....thats a bizaare question.
My cousin has a little girl who was adopted last year. And people say (once they find out she was adopted) "oh so youre not her mom?!"
People are ridiculous!
That kind of makes me laugh. Do you think she feels really stupid now? I've done that before - when we were going thru the homestudy I found out a casual acquaintance was foster-adopting. When inquiring about her experience I told her we were doing a "regular" adoption. WTH? I didn't even know how to backpedal that one but I'm sure I pissed her off. Can't blame her either.
At least she didn't say, "Oh, so they could get married some day!" Someone on the Korea board actually heard that one. Yup.
Ugh! People honestly say the stupidest things! In this day and age I just don't get how people are so out of it on adoption. Even before we considered adoption I would never have thought to say such a thing. As a society we need to do a MUCH better job of educating people on adoption etiquette.
Too funny...in a sort of WTF? kind of way...
In one of our parenting classes, an adoptive mom in a transracial adoption said someone asked her,
"So, is she your real daughter?"
Adoptive mom's reply: "No, she's my fake daughter."
LOL.
(Please note that the daughter in question was a baby at the time...the mom indicated she'd never say something so sarcastic and with so much potential for being misunderstood if her daughter had language at that point.)
People are just unbelieveable. I grew up with a brother and a sister from another mother and although we are not 100% related by blood they are 100% by brother and sister and blood would not make me love them any more than I do. I think I would have struggled not to give this woman a fat slap!
Lovely. I have to deal w/this all the time at medical institutions where my kids are treated when the docs first see them, I have this big "unknown, unknown, unknown" blank spaces, for maternal history due to our traditional surrogacy and the lack of a relationship w/our surro. It sucks. It is hard. It is something that our kids will always have to deal with. What is interesting is blended families like step families do not have to deal with this stuff. UGH.
I have a friend with twins and people ask her "are they natural?" People don't think before they speak.
ICLW
WTF? People are so clueless sometimes. It would be a lot better if they thought before they opened their mouth.
People can be rude and don't always think before they speak. This place would be so much better if more people did so.
Happy ICLW! (#70)
Poor woman. Obviously quite oblivious, but I suppose you can't really blame her. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that's not what she really meant... but you really never know with some people.
Oh the things people say--if only they would pause for a second before the garbage comes tumbling out of their mouths!
Happy ICLW!
Oy! People really need to learn to think before they open their mouths.
ICLW
Amazing, lol, stupid people. Great blog, can't wait to read more. I'm your newest follower from IComLeavWe.
-K
http://mypottyseat.blogspot.com/
That is an odd question. I bet she wanted to kick herself after that!!!
ICLW
http://daega99-arewethereyet.blogspot.com/
My abro and I look nothing alike. Nothing.
Seriously.
We know it.
Our whole lives...whenever we are together, especially during high school, it's all we have ever heard...
"You're not *really* brother and sister are you?"
Why yes...yes we are.
:)
A woman who does not know my brother but knows I was adopted as an infant asked me recently if I consider my abrother my brother.
I was stunned.
What else would he be?
He's the only brother I know.
And by the way, the woman who asked me that ridiculous question...she's a doctor. A very intelligent woman but the fact that I am adopted just baffles her.
I don't think anybody understands adoption unless they are living it.
idiots....and not just about adoption. When my baby was small she had neurosurgery ( shes fit and well now!) and we went out and despite wearing a little knitted hat the bruises were still visible and a total stranger walked up to be and said....awww did you drop your baby?
What are some people thinking about when they say these things
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