It's time again for the Open Adoption Round Table, hosted by Heather of Production Not Reproduction!
This time, Lori of Weebles Wobblog asks the question:
If there's one thing we all might agree on, it's that we'd like our open adoptions to be successful. But what does "success" mean to you, when speaking about open adoption? Do you think it may mean something else to the others in your triad?
For me success is about support, respect, and communcication. Ofcourse, the child is the top priority, however all sides need to feel heard, supported and acknowedged in order for it to be successful. communication has been a key in our success, when we have an issue arise, I always discuss it with baby bears birthmom, we discuss what she should be called or wants to be called, what type of involvemnt the extended birth family will have, length of visits... and on and on. I truely beleive we have done and excellent job so far and am very proud of our relationship that we have established. There has been very little information, and for sure no hand book on how to do this, weve just woked through it with lots of love. I am very sure that many things will come up in the future and we will hit many bumps, but that is not what matters it is that we maintain communication and respect what is best for all sides involved.
2 comments:
Sounds like you have laid the groundwork to be able to deal with the bumps.
I agree that communication is key. Well said.
Sounds like you have such a wonderful relationship with your daughter's birthmom. We love our son's birthmom and hope to continue building a strong and open relationship with her in the years to come!
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