Hello!
if you are visiting from ICLW, well welcome, you can read myinfo on the side bar,but for the most part, I am a mom to two amazing kiddos through domestic infant adoption, my daughter is three and half and we are in a very open and amazing open adoption, my son is 20 months old (today- wow- how did that happen?) we are in a close adoption at the request of his birthmom. I think I may be a strange kind of adoptive mom, I tend to lean way more to the side of adoption not always and really very often not being the right choice of most expectant moms, I am really really big in to ethics and do not tend to get that excited anymore when I hear of parents being matched with a "birthmom". Sorry, I just know the loss it has on the child and I think it should only be if there is no other way, which I know it is, so I am by no means anti-adoption I just have come to acknowledge that it surely isnt all lemondrops, rainbows and puppies, like I thought for so many years. I am also pretty sure we will not pursue the traditional domestice adoption again, if we did it would have to be the perfect situation on both sides. but anyway, in all other areas, just a normal mom that loves her kids to death, two great dogs that live inside and sleep in my bed with me and I own and operate a preschool that is attached to my home, hubby is active duty army and may or may not be headed over seas soon, and day to day around her can be an adventure!! look forward to meeting and reading blogs! thanks for stopping by!
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Hello Mama Bear, thanks for the comment! I wrote a post last year about what Tricare covers for infertility but your best best would be to visit Fertile Thoughts. They have a military forum that has LOTS of info. One is a post about all the MTF's that offer IVF and their prices and wait lists. Each MTF is different with their pricing and how they do IVF. Some places like Womack do it every month, some places like Walter Reed do cycles once a quarter. Hope this helps!
Your babies are beautiful (the human ones, too, hee hee). We may pursue adoption in a few years, and have heard that it definitely has its ups and downs. Good for you for being honest.
I scrolled down and saw your Santa pic. How hillarious. Brother Bear is freaking out and Baby Bear just has this beautiful, peaceful smile, not even acknowledging or aware of what's going on a few inches from her. GReat! ICLW
Your family is absolutely gorgeous, you should be so proud!!
ICLW
Rach
www.thegalwho.wordpress.com
My dogs (and cats) sleep in the bed as well - all 4 of them!
ICLW
http://daega99-arewethereyet.blogspot.com/
Congrats on your two children.
Your post is part of the reason why when people say "why don't you just adopt" I laugh. If only it was that simple but there are so many aspects to consider.
ICLW
Hah, all my pets are allowed on the bed, too. And I love how honest/realistic you are about adoption.
My kids (dogs) sleep in my bed every night. This has resulted in being bitten on more than one occasion but the cuddles are worth it! I think.
Nice to meet you!
Christina
The Subfertile Frugalista
iclw
Thanks for stopping by!
I admit, I was always so naive about adoption until recently when one of my blog friends ventured into it. She started writing posts about things she had learned to expect with adoption, and it has been a real eye opener. I never really, honestly thought about the other side of it all. I knew it must be hard for the mother, and maybe for the child one day if they knew they were adopted, but I never really took into account all of the feelings and emotions that go into it on all sides. Its been amazing.
I think it is incredible you have both an open and closed adoption. I am sure it is so different, and rare to know both ways.
I wish you all the very best this coming year!
thanks for your comment, that tooth is ever so s l o w l y coming in...
what an interesting blog you have. i look forward to reading through it, as when we were in the middle of TTC for what seemed like forever, adoption was one thing we began to look into through our church...
Hi Mama Bear!
Thanks for being so honest. While we are adopting and currently waiting for a match, I find myself thinking in a similar way. Adoption is great for us, the adoptive parents, but the reality of grief and loss for the child and the mother is something that has to be respected and acknowledged.
You have a beautiful family!
ICLW
Congrats on your adoptive babies! I am so happy that there are so many people out there willing to open their hearts and homes to these children who may not have such a happy life otherwise...
You are doing such a great thing, and I give you kudos for it! =)
Happy ICLW!
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